I really feel that a miscarriage for anyone is an extremely difficult experience, never to be underestimated, but having the added burden of infertility greatly increases the pain and suffering a women experiences. We are often left wondering if this pregnancy was our "only chance" at a baby. How long will it take us to fall pregnant again when we want to try for another baby? Years ?? ... only to lose another? You see, women who suffer from infertility know that making babies isn't as easy as some people think. Often it's not as simple as two people sharing an intimate moment in the privacy of their home.

When a woman suffers from infertility and miscarriage ... after she has began her long road to trying to reclaim her life and build up the courage to start her painful journey again she is disheartened whenever she discovers she is not pregnant with each cycle. She grieves for her future pregnancy and is constantly haunted by the loss of her previous one. Each time she experiences a failed attempt at pregnancy, she suffers from days of despair and distress ...sometimes up to a week. Then builds herself up toward the time of ovulation and hopes are renewed. Then there's a long, daunting 2 weeks between ovulation and a period wondering if she is pregnant ... having a body (or mind) trick her into thinking she is. Sometimes convinced she's pregnant .... only to have her reproductive and emotional cycle restart over and over again. Living life on a Roller Coaster. Some people say "just forget about it" or "don't stress over it and it will happen" ... ironic really, people who give advice like that are usually people who fall pregnant on a first or second attempt and would have no idea what it's like to experience infertility and miscarriage.

Issues relating to the loss of a previous baby resurface to live over and over again when a woman finds out she's not pregnant. Finding themselves wondering if this nightmare is ever going to end. It's actually really difficult to imagine she will ever have a baby in her arms. Surely life wasn't meant to be this difficult? Wasn't losing a baby bad enough?

It is painful to see women neglect their children, pregnant women smoking or drinking or women smoking in cars whilst driving around with innocent lungs in the back. It hurts because these women know they would make a good mother. They have a lot of love to give a child and yearn so much for a family. They feel a great sense of injustice when these other women abuse the wonderful gift they have been given.

Rather than reinvent the wheel and create a section here giving you all the necessary information and research, a friend of mine, who I met at Fertile Thoughts, has dedicated a web site entirely to Infertility and Miscarriage. No matter how hard I tried, I could never create a site so rich in content as she has, she truly has done a wonderful job and you will find all the information you need regarding infertility and miscarriage at her site.

Visit Rebekah's Infertility & Miscarriage Web Site