2. YELLED that Bailey meowed too loud over and over again, (but I gave him another chance)

3. Saying he wanted to have a threesome with my sisters.(but I gave him another chance)

4. Always left food, soda, napkins etc., in living room over and over again, (but I gave him another chance every time). He liked me to pick up after him.

5. YELLING and SCREAMING about the garden - made a scene outside the house, (but I gave him another chance).

6. Telling me the house was dirty when he was the one who made it so, (but I gave him another chance each time).

7. Never said thank you for doing his laundry, ironing his clothes etc. even when I nagged him to just acknowledge the fact that I did it, he refused over and over again, (but I gave him another chance every day).

8. THREATENING to kill my parents, the cats, dog, me, himself, the whole world if I left him....over and over and over again

9. Gritting his teeth, squinting his eyes and growling at me in a menacing and intimidating fashion, (but I gave him another chance each time).

10. Saying he would "stick a knife in K**'s c*nt and slit her from end to end" (but I gave him another chance).

11. Saying he'd kill his old bosses on many occasions (but I gave him another chance each time).

12. YELLING at me in FL, saying how slow I always was, (but I gave him another chance each time).

13. YELLING in the airport parking lot when he couldn't find the rental car, (I gave him another chance, but it was the second to last straw)

14. Ripping up my self-esteem class notes, (but I gave him another chance).

15. Ripping up all my old pictures, (but I gave him another chance).

16. Telling me I was a slut over and over again, (but I gave him another chance each time).

17. Physically stopping me from leaving the room, if he wanted me to stay. (but I gave him another chance).

18. MAKING me stay in Rochester at his parent's house when I wanted to go back to my apt in Oswego, (but I gave him another chance).

19. Telling me that I walked funny and the whole time at college "guys stared at (my) ass".

21. YELLING about Diane's missing sponge over and over again, (but I gave him another chance)..

22. Not letting me give money at church, (but I gave him another chance every time until I stopped going to church).

23. Ripping my (Marianne's) shirt, (but I gave him another chance)

23. YELLING at SCREAMING if the lasagna noodles got chipped or broken during the course of cooking - but I gave him another chance every time.

24. Drank every day and made me sick just to look at him, (but I gave him another chance every day). He also promised to quit drinking if I quit smoking, but big surprise that he didn't keep that promise.

26. Beat the shit out of me for tipping the pizza guy $2, (but I gave him another chance). Through my tears and pleading I managed to start singing "In my Life" by the Beatles, which was "our song". It distracted him enough. He said I was a stupid f***ing bitch for singing it, gave me one good final punch and sulked for the rest of the night. I felt guilty that I made him unhappy. I should have let him hit me until he got physically too tired to continue. But no, I had to go and start singing our song. My fault, as usual.

27. Never letting me get drunk because I always had to drive him home, (but I gave him another chance)

28. MAKING me quit ****** ***** when we were dirt poor, (but I gave him another chance).

29. Ripping up my carton of cigarettes with his teeth like an animal, growling. (but I gave him another chance).

30. Counting my money and going in my purse to do so, without first asking, (but I gave him another chance, every time).

31. MAKING me get Mumbo, our first cat. I am allergic to cats but he didn't care (but I gave him another chance).

32. 4 years later MAKING me give Mumbo to the Humane Society, and yelling at me for crying (but I gave him another chance).

33. MAKING me have sex with him when I was on the phone with my old friend Linda, but I gave him another chance).

34. Always RANTING about the cost of food over and over again so I didn't eat much or buy anything extra for myself, (but I gave him another chance).

35. HITTING me when I was on the phone with the priest planning our wedding (really a formal "blessing" ceremony) (but I gave him another chance, after all, the ceremony was in 3 weeks, there were 150 people coming and we were legally married anyway).

36. Always YELLING about the hot water heater being broken, (but I gave him another chance each time).

37. Always YELLING that he didn't have enough hot water for his long weekend showers, (what was he doing in there anyway?) so I only took 2 minute showers, (but I gave him another chance).

38. Badgering, coercing me to have sex until I gave in, (but I gave him another chance). Speaking of sex, that cheater should really have his "thing" checked out.

39. MAKING me get flowers for his mom, (but I gave him another chance).

40. MAKING me miss my last college class, (but I gave him another chance).

41. Telling me I couldn't keep my Dad's life insurance policy on me, then MAKING me call him to tell him so, even though I had PROMISED to keep it in force when he gave me $ for the Maryland trip, (but I gave him another chance).

42. MAKING me call when he wanted pizza, when we were looking for apartments, or anything, (but I gave him another chance every time).

43. MAKING me call (with him YELLING in the background) loan officers and MAKING an ass out of myself, (but I gave him another chance), Peg about the townhouse, (but I gave him another chance), Bill in *********, (but I gave him another chance

44. Calling me 3 + times per day at ************ so I could never leave for lunch, or take a walk to see the kittens, and even though my boss Susan told me to tell Doug that he was tying up a business line, he didn't, yelling that husbands should be allowed to call their wives at work, and my boss was a bitch and my job sucked anyway...(but I gave him another chance).

45. MAKING me get the townhouse, (but I gave him another chance).

46. YELLING about the well breaking over and over again, (but I gave him another chance).,

47. MAKING me get the Caravan, (but I gave him another chance).

48. MAKING me stand for 1+ hours in the computer store when I had the flu and bronchitis and almost passed out several times, while he decided between Sega and Super Nintendo (He already had a regular Nintendo, (but I gave him another chance). He decided on Super Nintendo but within a month he bought the Sega also. Selfish creep. What a waste of my time.

49. Counting my cigarettes daily, then less frequently, (but I gave him another chance). He only let me get a carton every two weeks, (but I gave him another chance). But he could drink as much beer as he wanted- "the Surgeon General said so"

50. SCREAMING that we couldn't afford AL foil, FORCING me to calculate how much miscellaneous kitchen supplies would be and all because I casually mentioned how nice it was that Gram had given us all those boxes of napkins, foil, saran wrap etc., (but I gave him another chance)

51. FORCING me to look for used cars and make a list of them and the details for the entire time he had to work on a particular Sunday during the Gulf War, (but I gave him another chance). "If I have to work on my day off, so do you!!!", he growled, (but I gave him another chance).

52. Not letting me take the job offer for the shift work Meteorologist in Camp Springs, (but I gave him another chance).

53. Breaking Mumbo's leg and bitching about the cost to fix it, (but I expected that)

54. MAKING me lie to his parents about how much we paid for Ringo, our dog, (but I gave him another chance).

55. HITTING me in the car with his parents in Toronto, (but I gave him another chance).

56. SCREAMING about how we are the only house with no windows ! He's absolutely crazy!!!!

57. SCREAMING about how I bought lip-gloss that was called "kissing lip gloss" I KNEW YOU WERE A F***ING SLUT!!"

58. Beating me up the night before Warren's wedding, (but I gave him another chance). And I guess his parents know why I was so depressed now!

59. His blaming me for his peeing the bed because he was so drunk and then FORCING me to clean it up and wash the sheets before his parents found out, (but I gave him another chance).

60. Ignoring me, when he wasn't YELLING, (but I gave him another chance).

61. THROWING things at me - usually HITTING me, but sometimes deliberately missing to intimidate me, saying in a condescending tone, "C'mon, Kar, what are ya so scared of? I didn't even f*cking hit ya'"(but I gave him another chance, over and over and over again).

62. YELLING and SCREAMING, for months before and during the furlough, about how much money we were losing, then deciding to go to Charleston and spending $400+, and trying to convince us all to stay longer, (but I gave him another chance).

63. Reading my mail and accusing me of the most ridiculous things, (but I gave him another chance).

64. Embarrassing me in malls, and MAKING scenes by just standing there in the middle of everything and going off about some stupid thing, (but I gave him another chance every time until I stopped going places with him in public).

65. Never taking Ringo for walks, (but I gave him another chance every day).I had to get up at 430 am every day to take care of that dog, that he PROMISED he'd help take care of. I think he walked the dog 4 times total.

66. Always leaving his stuff on the floor, because he knew I liked to keep clean, (but I gave him another chance every day).

67. SCREAMING about wx station #1 and MAKING me call the dealer at home on a Saturday to (lie) saying that "Doug is out of town but I opened this WX station up and I know he won't be happy with it, How do we go about returning it?" (but even though I told him I wanted nothing to do with the WX station I gave him another chance)

68. SCREAMING about the 2nd weather station, (but I gave him another chance).

69. SCREAMING about the climatology of FL in July, and how "It will rain every day! Oh MY GOD THIS VACATION IS GONNA SUCK! I CAN'T BELLEEEEIVVVVE IT! OH MY GOD.......", when he's the one who planned the vacation for then, (but I gave him another chance). You would think a meteorologist would be aware of Florida's tropical climate...

70. SCREAMING about the rental car in NV would be too small, (but I gave him another chance). Calling his parents and saying that we had all only bring one suitcase, (but I gave him another chance). MAKING us pack and repack, (but I gave him another chance). MAKING me call the Car rental place for exact dimensions of the trunk, (but I gave him another chance).

71. Not letting me work weekends at ********, (but I gave him another chance).

72. FORCING me to stay home form work when the deck was being built,and MAKING me call him and report how they were progressing and asking me over and over again, "Where did they put the posts?" After procrastinating as long as I could I told him they were on the inside of the deck, not the outside and he screamed even more about how that was going to yield a deck that was 10 cubic feet less than the one we designed, (but I gave him another chance).

73. MAKING me call Peg, the real estate agent for our townhouse. over and over and over and over, (but I gave him another chance) God I looked like a freak!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.

74. Telling me my < $5.00 phone calls to home/month were too much, when he spend $40+ calling his parents. His reason was "My parents do more for us", (but I gave him another chance, and stopped calling my family ).

75. Just sitting there like a bump on a log and making no attempts at social interaction, Made me look and feel stupid at each of the few social things we participated in, (but I gave him another chance).

76. Not letting me buy the $2.00 license plate for Matt, (but I gave him another chance). Then glaring, growling and gritting his teeth at me back at my mom's house, menacing, "You're gonna get it you f***ing whore"... (but I gave him another chance).

77. Breaking my glasses during a fight and then MAKING me call the nearest eyeglass store, (but I gave him another chance).

78. MAKING me make dinner and never saying thank you, and often complaining loudly and obnoxiously about how he was bored of the same old things, (but I gave him another chance every time).

79. MAKING me call for pizza every time he wanted it, even though I said I was embarrassed that we called two times per week, (but I gave him another chance every week to call himself)

80. MAKING me put my birthday money into savings, but he could spend or save as his as he chose, (but I gave him another chance every year).

81. Saying we could spend 3x more on his parents for Xmas because they did so much more that my parents did, (but I gave him another chance every year).

82. Only spending one day in Utica per year , due to his insistence or my fear of him embarrassing me.

83. MAKING me sit and listen to him rant and rave, and his SCREAMING even worse when I tried to just tune it out , (but I gave him another chance every f***ing time).

84.MAKING me answer the same questions over and over and over and over and over again, (but I gave him another chance every time).

85. Breaking Myra's lamp, a cherished possession from a friend whom had passed away (but I gave him another chance).

86. Breaking my dishes, 3 of MY calculators, my glasses, coasters, remote controls, 2 VCR's, tables lamps chairs, walls, shower curtains, screen doors, ripping books, stabbing his Dad's book clean through with a pen, and so forth, (but I gave him another chance)., (but I gave him another chance)., another chance).

87. Breaking my ribs twice.(I'm sure, it took almost 6 weeks to breathe normally, but I was too scared to go to the doctor) Bruising them many many many times

88. YELLING at me if I was not outside waiting when he pulled up at my job in DC, and I had to jump in the car and put my seatbelt on immediately, lest he yell, (but I gave him another chance).

89. Ripping up ######### (boss in *********) , very important papers for the insurance co, (but I gave him another chance). I tried to make Doug understand that I was going to have a horrible time explaining to my boss why I didn't have the papers, but Doug didn't care, (but I gave him another chance, as usual). Luckily, having a feeling that he would, I had made copies of the documents and left them at work, (but I gave him another chance).

90. MAKING me apply at the supermarket, because we had no money (but I gave him another chance).

91. SCREAMING about how expensive my birth control pills were, so I stopped taking them, (but I gave him another chance).

92. Complaining about the cost of a gall bladder removal operation, so I never went back to the doctor, although the doctor thought removal was the best course of action, (but I gave him another chance).

93. Complaining about my tendonitis and how much that would cost, so I never went back to the doctor for that either, (but I gave him another chance).

94. MAKING me stay home from work when he didn't want me to go, (but I gave him another chance).

95. PUNCHING me in the chest at the bottom of the stairs, in the middle of the night. I can't remember his reason, (but I gave him another chance). He bitched that I wasted a day home from work, and about how much he spent on the ace bandages.

96. Slapping me around and giving me black and blue marks, (but I gave him another chance).

97. Not letting me see a psychologist, SCREAMING and bitching that I couldn't talk about his and my relationship, blah blah blah....(but only after he tried to strangle me (8/23/96)and was scared to death I would leave him, did he let me go).

98. Ripping up my purse, then buying a new one to replace it and then bitching about how much he had to pay for it, (but I gave him another chance).

99. Slicing open my favorite teddy bear with a knife and violently THROWING the stuffing all over the room, (but I gave him another chance).

100. Calling me at work and YELLING about the new bed from the furniture store, (but I gave him another chance). I had to pretend that the conversation was normal but you could hear him SCREAMING through the phone and I was very embarrassed, (but I gave him another chance).

101. SCREAMING about the "firm" box spring and telling me I was stupid and didn't believe me when I said that all box springs are firm, and MAKING me call the store so he could hear for himself, (but I gave him another chance).

102. MAKING me call about the condo fee overcharge, over and over again, (but I gave him another chance).

103. MAKING me call, with him SCREAMING in the background, over and over again about the basketball hoop, (but I gave him another chance).

104. Never checking first, or replacing the toilet paper or paper towel rolls, but YELLING for me to get some if he ran out, (but I gave him another chance).

105. YELLING at me when he ate all his sandwich meat and then didn't have enough for work, (but I gave him another chance).

106. Not letting me fall asleep on the couch, I had to sleep with him, (but I gave him another chance every time.

107. Not letting me do anything I wanted during the furlough, even though all the things I wanted to do were free, (but I gave him another chance).

108. Storming out of the car and leaving me at the bottom of the hill when he got stuck going up the ice covered incline to our house, SCREAMING "F*** THIS SHIT" loudly and so on,,,, I tried to catch up to him but couldn't , (but I gave him another chance). I looked like an idiot catching after him, running up to the house.

109. YELLING about refinishing the bedroom set and kicking a hole in the side of the dresser, (but I gave him another chance).

110. Getting up early to hide Ringo's peeing from Doug, What did he expect when he kept the dog locked up for 23 hours a day! Of course he'll pee in the house! When I think about how he hurt his parents and the animals I become the most upset at his actions.

111. Not being able to move around in bed because he would scream that he couldn't sleep if I ruffled the covers, (but I gave him another chance every night).

112. Saying it was my job to do all the shower and wedding thank you cards, (but I gave him another chance).

113. Ignoring me the night before Warren's wedding at the party, and embarrassing me by the things he said and did, (but I gave him another chance). No one that we had met that night thought he and I were married, because he didn't even talk to me (but I gave him another chance later on that evening - too bad he YELLED and hit me later and I again gave him another chance.)

114. Bitching about me having to make my confirmation when it was his grandmother that coerced me into doing it, (but I gave him another chance).

115. Accusing me of staring at some guy at Xmas mass so I became even more reluctant to go to church, (I would have given him another chance but I stopped going to church).

116. In a rage, THROWING the screwdriver against the wall so hard it straight through the townhouse basement wall into the crawlspace for the next townhouse, (but I gave him another chance). After all, he "missed" me.

117. Breaking the VCR with another screwdriver, because he missed a very important play that occurred during some baseball game, blaming me for his missing it, (but I gave him another chance).

118. SCREAMING at Rosa's so many times, and not caring if she could hear or not, (but I gave him another chance). Especially bad one day when she and her friend were in the basement cooking and I heard Rosa say "Oh, he always yells like that"(but I gave him another chance ). And his mother wondered why Rosa wasn't very conversational in the grocery store....

119. Dragging me out of the REDWINGS game by the sleeve of my shirt, in front of hundreds of people, (but I gave him another chance).

120. Accusing me of staring at some slutty girl at the TP concert, YELLING at me, saying I wanted to be a slut too, (but I gave him another chance).

121. Yelling at me and telling me I wore too much makeup, (over and over again until I stopped wearing it, then he said that I "lost my good looks").

122. ALWAYS YELLING and often HITTING me whenever he got a haircut, (but I gave him another chance). He would insist on doing it on a Sunday morning, before we got groceries, and then he'd always throw a fit afterwards and drive home like a maniac, not getting the groceries, MAKING me fix what was uneven, and SCREAMING the whole time, (but I gave him another chance every time).

123. YELLING about the humidity reading of the WX station - YELLING at me saying it wasn't 100 % relative humidity when it was FOGGY, (but I gave him another chance).

124. YELLING for an hour + about how big the blue chair was, (but I gave him another chance).

125. YELLING for an hour + about how ABNORMALLY small our living room was, (but I gave him another chance).

126. Breaking my makeup mirror and then the one he bought to replace the first one he broke, (but I gave him another chance). I stopped buying makeup mirrors after that, (but I gave him another chance). He said they were too expensive.

127. THROWING Dr. Jude's gift to me, aloe vera plant, new years eve '91, (but I gave him another chance). Dirt was everywhere in the bedroom and on the walls and carpet and he wouldn't help clean it up , (but I gave him another chance). I was so upset I slammed the bedroom door, and he then YELLED at me and chased me around the apartment and HIT me, because I GOT MAD. (but I gave him another chance). I ended up cleaning it later on, of course. Typical New Year's Eve.

128. Having to watch races and pretend I was interested or else he'd yell and berate me, (but I gave him another chance).

129. Having to go to races in the cold, rain, and heat, (but I gave him another chance).

130. Breaking the $900.00 camcorder, because he thought something was wrong with it, even though I told him that it was the tape was probably bad, (but I gave him another chance).

131. YELLING at me on and off for 90 minutes because I refused to go with him to get a new one, and his not admitting he was wrong when he placed the tape in the new camcorder and discovered it was indeed the tape, (but I didn't rub it in) and MAKING me lie to his friends, his parents and others about the new one, (but I gave him another chance). Guess you know the truth now, don't you?

132. Having to talk to Gram on the phone because Doug wouldn't, and him "SHUSHING" me when I was on the phone with her, (but I gave him another chance). I was pretending he was out mowing the lawn, so he didn't have to talk to her, but I was talking too loud for him to hear the TV, (but I gave him another chance).

133. Breaking my arm, and telling me it didn't break and dragging me to the phone in the bedroom to call his mom and tell her that he and I were having "marital problems", (but I gave him another chance).

134. Strangling me and then saying he didn't almost kill me, (but I gave him another chance).

135. SCREAMING and spitting on me during all the fights, (but I gave him another chance).

136. MAKING the face "grimace", (but I gave him another chance each time).

137. Only watching the TV shows he wanted to see, (but I gave him another chance every day).

138. Not letting me have friends, (I stopped trying, and made excuses and turned down offers..).

139. MAKING me hide in the hallway, basement, or wherever, during thunderstorms, (but I gave him another chance every time).

140. Lying to me about people at work , (but I gave him another chance).

141. YELLING at me when I was just a few seconds late, but I had to stay 1 - 2 hours late waiting for him 2 or 3 times, (but I gave him another chance).

142. SCREAMING anytime about the weather all the time always either too hot, cold, dry ,windy, wet, (but I gave him another chance every day) I was scared if it snowed, if it didn't snow, if it was raining. If it was dry.....I was scared every day.

143. Insisting upon trying to drive up the icy hill to the house, SCREAMING and YELLING all the time, (but I gave him another chance, and he tried again the following day, and I then I gave him another chance).

144. Violently turning the car around when he realized he was lost in DC, and missing HITTING a pedestrian by less than a foot, (but I gave him another chance).

145. YELLING for hours on end about the Gulf War and what he would do if he got drafted, (but I gave him another chance)

146. YELLING about the JVC camcorder, (but I gave him another chance).

147. YELLING at me and treating me like shit at the Paul McCartney concert in DC, in front of his family and Joe, (but I gave him another chance). I can't remember why he said he was angry, (but I gave him another chance).

148. YELLING about the FL trip and that we wouldn't all fit in the car, but he wouldn't even call up a rental car company for a quote on a van , or fly (with his parents subsidizing it) , (but I gave him another chance).

149. Not letting me be friends with Matt, (so eventually I stopped talking to him).

150. MAKING me quit the bar job at Oswego, (but I gave him another chance).

151. Breaking each car windshield by PUNCHING it, and MAKING me take time off from work to get it fixed, (but I gave him another chance).

152. Breaking the driver's side mirror in the Caravan - can't remember why, (but I gave him another chance).

153. SCREAMING about the car's gas mileage over and over again, (but I gave him another chance).

154. Watching what he wanted to on TV but not letting me go into the other room to watch a different show on the other TV, (but I gave him another chance).

155. SCREAMING about the garage door over and over again, (but I gave him another chance).

156. SCREAMING about and YELLING and dwelling on losing his job over and over again, (but I gave him another chance every time)

157. YELLING about the floor not being level in the townhouse, over and over again, (but I gave him another chance every time).

158. YELLING about the deck over and over again, (but I gave him another chance every time).

159. YELLING about the screen door not being even over and over again, (but I gave him another chance every time).

160. YELLING about the neighbor's bush in front over and over again, (but I gave him another chance every time).

161. Kicking Ringo down the stairs and pretending he had tripped, (but I gave him another chance).

162. Betraying his wedding vows over and over again, (but I ALWAYS gave him another chance, until Oct 14, 1996)

163. Deterring me from being friends with Tracy and Arthur, (but I gave him another chance).

164. Always stopping for lunch only, if he stopped at all, when we were on the road, even though he knew I liked breakfast, (but I gave him another chance every trip).

165. Accusing me of adultery, over and over again, (but I gave him another chance each time).

166. Accusing me of being a slut in the past, over and over again, (but I gave him another chance).

167. MAKING scenes at Greenbelt and Laurel malls, virtually every time we went, (but I gave him another chance, until, of course, I became a hermit).

168. MAKING me feel like my fast food was too expensive so I rarely ate out when he did, (but I gave him another chance).

169. Demeaning me to the point where I had to leave everything behind and run away.

170. Driving me to the point of madness, (but I gave him another chance). Having to spend my time going to a therapist, emergency room, x-ray dept. at hospital , arm doctor, lawyers, 2 helpmate meetings per week, court, and so on, having to lie to people about where I was to protect HIS reputation (but I gave him a chance to be my friend)

171. Telling me I was stupid over and over again, (but I gave him another chance every time ).

172. Saying he hated my parents and would kill them if he could, over and over again, (but I gave him another chance).

173. Blaming me if the air conditioning wasn't turned on enough, (but I gave him another chance).

174. Saying I had "blow job lips" and "blow job hair", (but I gave him another chance).

175. Accusing me of being involved in orgies , questioning me over and over again, trying to get me to change my story, (but I gave him another chance).

176. Insisting I was with 2 guys at once, over and over again, trying to get me to change my story, constantly quizzing me and making me account for every thing. (but I gave him another chance).

177. THREATENING me both times that Joe and Janet came to visit, both times whipping the cat toy whip so hard towards me (close, but missing me) that he broke BOTH OF THEM, BOTH TIMES, during incidents 2 YEARS APART??? Why that, why when they were there? But, each time I gave him another chance.

178. Saying that I loved sex and was a very sexy woman, (but I gave him another chance).

179. Letting Ringo go off his leash, encouraging him to run away, and THREATENING to just "let him outside and never let him back" in a several times, (but I gave him another chance).

180. THREATENING to hurt "Matty-boy", (but I gave him another chance).

181. Scaring me at the Atlanta KFC, because I was hesitant to order, not knowing what was on the menu, (but I gave him another chance).

182. During trips home, never stopping for me to go to the bathroom when I needed to, (but I gave him another chance on each trip).

183. YELLING at me because I refused to call glass repair places after he broke the glass living room table , (but I gave him another chance).

184. Driving way above the speed limit and slamming on the breaks to scare me, (but I gave him another chance every time he did it).

185. THREATENING to drive off the road at a high rate of speed, (but I gave him another chance).

186 FORCING me to sit there and listen while he rattled off stuff about the wx station, and YELLING at me because I wouldn't call for the info about it, (but I gave him another chance).

187. Not getting lunch for the ************ mover guys, (but I gave him another chance).

188. Embarrassing me in Fairview supermarket - asking me in a very loud voice about how many minutes I had used on the cell phone, (I gave him another chance, but it was the "third" straw left).

189. MAKING me terrified of men, (just as well).

190. Destroying my self-esteem (but I gave him another chance).

191. Having to move all my stuff in the middle of the night with a broken arm, while having to be home when he called, and at work when he called there, (but I gave him another chance).

192. Having to lie to cover up for his HITTING me, (but I gave him another chance every time).

193. Hitting me for unknown reasons - Maybe I looked at him funny. I don't know. So unpredictable.

194. HITTING me and THREATENING to, every time he suspected I had ripped up some of our photos, (but I gave him another chance each time).

195. MAKING me stand waiting for him to pick out he videos he liked, and YELLING and THROWING a tantrum, loudly in the store, if there wasn't anything he wanted to see, (but I gave him another chance, until I refused to go with him anymore).

196. Bothering me over and over again about his ingrown hairs, (but I gave him another chance).

197. Same thing with his eye floaters, (but I gave him another chance).

198. Trying to make me feel guilty about not wanting to have sex with him, (but I gave him another chance to be nice to me so maybe I would want him again).

199. FORCING me to lie to his parents about his HITTING me, (but I gave him another chance not to hit or yell at me every new day)

200. FORCING me to be affectionate in front of his parents, and hitting me after they left the room (but I gave him another chance).

201. SCREAMING that my resume was better than his, and THROWING mine out the car window, but due to how fast he was driving, I don't think any actually left the car, (but I gave him another chance).

202. Not letting me buy things I wanted, or discouraging me from doing so, (but I gave him another chance).

203. SCREAMING and YELLING about the budget over and over every, every fiscal year, (but I gave him another chance).

204. Telling me that his boss wanted me fired, (but I gave him another chance to keep his job and try to be friends)

205. Telling me that if I applied for the job in a different **** work area it meant that I was leaving him for sure and our marriage was over, so I never tried again for a government job, (but I gave him another chance).

206. Blaming me for when he left pens in his pockets and I washed them, not apologizing or helping me to clean away the ink, even from when it ruined my clothes, (but I gave him another chance).

207. Breaking VCR #1 I can't remember how, (but I gave him another chance).

208. Breaking rulers, pencils by bending them, growling and acting all THREATENING,,,, usually saying it could be my neck or my head...(but I gave him another chance each time)

209. Not letting us get Bailey's teeth cleaned, (but I gave him another chance).

210. Telling me I embarrassed him by not wearing shorts, (but I gave him another chance).

211. SCREAMING that we could never have a garage door opener because our garage ceiling was abnormally short, (but I gave him another chance).

212. SCREAMING and YELLING about his work hours, (but I gave him another chance).

213. Saying I dawdled and was always MAKING him wait, (but I gave him another chance).

214. Not letting me have one small piece of pepperoni bread the night before he left for WI, even though he should have known full well I hadn't been interested in food at all for about a month, (I gave him another chance, but it was the second to last straw)

215. SCREAMING about and then breaking the pizza pans, (but I gave him another chance).

216. Breaking the banister with his fist, (but I gave him another chance).

217. He had been YELLING about something for about 20 minutes before I took a pot and HIT it against the kitchen counter sink just to try to make him shut up, but he didn't. He had to outdo me by breaking the pot and ruining the counter, then telling me it was my fault because I "started it', (but I gave him another chance).

218. YELLING at me saying it was my fault that the house was too hot/cold, (but I gave him another chance).

219. SCREAMING that he was going to go blind and how would we survive, over and over again, (but I gave him another chance).

220. SCREAMING about the sofa not fitting downstairs and MAKING us go over the dimensions over and over again. (but I gave him another chance)

221. YELLING and swearing in public, and/or THREATENING to, (but I gave him another chance).

222. Tailgating people whom passed him, (but I always gave him another chance).

223. THREATENING to give Ringo away if he found out Ringo was still peeing downstairs, (but I gave both of them another chance).

224. Scaring the actual shit out of Bailey when he chased Bailey with the dustbuster, (but I gave him another chance).

225. Putting Mumbo in the freezer even though I told him it could hurt the cat, (but I gave him another chance).

226. Wildly THROWING darts at Rosa's refrigerator, putting a dozen holes in it. (but I gave him another chance).

227. SCREAMING about Fairview being the windiest place on earth and we "should have been told" (but I gave him another chance).

228. YELLING that Asheville was just as hot as Florida and we were deceived into moving here, (but I gave him another chance).

229. YELLING about the cost of living in Asheville, saying we were deceived and it was my fault we moved ,(but I gave him another chance).

230. THROWING the coaster at me - it had something to do with the carpet, (but I gave him another chance).

231. Telling me there was no way I'd be working in my field if it weren't for him, (but I gave him another chance).

232. Telling me I had to chose between him and Matt's friendship, He said he would force me to give Matt a blow job and then "shoot (us) both in the f***ing head."(but I gave him another chance).

233. THROWING up at Warren's and MAKING me clean it up and do the sheets at his mom's house, (but I gave him another chance).

234. MAKING me get the mail, go to the Post Office, etc., (but I gave him another chance to help every day)., until he found out I had hidden bills from him that I thought would upset him, then HE GOT THE MAIL. WELL, FINALLY THE LITTLE AHOLE DID SOMETHING AROUND THE HOUSE!

235. THROWING up at house in Fairview when Chad and Robin were (but I gave him another chance).

236. Not letting me loan Marianne $50.00, (but I gave him another chance).

237. His YELLING at me hundreds of times because I was "too calm" in crisis, (but I gave him another chance every f***ing time). What the hell wasn't a crisis to him? And I got hit when I got upset....There was no end to it but leaving.

238. Raising his hand and THREATENING to HIT me at least a hundred times, (but I gave him another chance).

239. Saying I owed his parents $10,000 and had to stay with him to pay it off, (but I gave him another chance).

240. Saying I couldn't leave because his parents did so much for me, (but I gave him another chance).

241. SCREAMING that the sofabed would never fit it the townhouse downstairs, over and over again, (but I gave him another chance).

242. SCREAMING about the townhouse lack of windows, over and over again, (but I gave him another chance).

243. MAKING me watch videos of both houses over and over again, (but I gave him another chance).

244. Not wanting me to have any of HIS daily beer, but complaining the 2 or 3 times in 7 years that I wanted to buy a 6 pack of Labatt, (but I gave him another chance).

245. MAKING me clean up Ringo's messes, (but I gave him another chance).

246. SCREAMING that we planted the peas too late in the season, (but I gave him another chance).

247. SCREAMING and MAKING a scene about worms in the corn, (but I gave him another chance).

248. SCREAMING that it was the neighbors' responsibility to rake the leaves in our yard because it was leaves, from their trees (but I gave him another chance). also SCREAMING that it would take 1 day per week every week, to rake them all, (but I gave him another chance).

249. SCREAMING about the yard not being an acre, (but I gave him another chance).

250. YELLING about the rocks in the driveway, SCREAMING loudly in front of everyone, about how many there were and how we'd never be able to plant anything there, (but I gave him another chance).

251. YELLING about the townhouse backyard, (but I gave him another chance).

252. YELLING that the guy with 60 acres was going to turn his land into a mobile home park, (but I gave him another chance).

253. YELLING about the guys flowers next door, and that ours looked horrible too, (but I gave him another chance).

254. SCREAMING that we didn't have REAL burning bushes and driving all around town looking for other peoples shrubs, (but I gave him another chance). Also RANTING that ours had some strange disease and would die and we wasted all our money, (but I gave him another chance).

255. YELLING about the neighbors YELLING, (but I gave him another chance).

256. YELLING about not being able to get the townhouse, over and over again, (but I gave him another chance).

257. YELLING about the Fairview house, that we wouldn't be able to get it, with lunchtime at work particularly bad, but I gave him another chance daily).

258. YELLING that I always keep bringing up the past, (but I always gave him another chance).

259. YELLING about high auto insurance rates, so I married him to lower the insurance so he'd shut up. It worked for a while, but he found something else to bitch about (but I gave him another chance).

260. Getting fed up with painting the bathroom, so he threw the paintbrush, with bright blue paint, against the hallway, which we had painted peach on the previous day. Of course I had to repaint everything, (but I gave him another chance).

261. THREATENING to kill himself , several times, (but I gave him another chance).

262. Telling me "You can just forget about seeing my family ever again" (but I gave him another chance to handle this peacefully ) and that his parents hated me, (but I gave him another chance). God knows what lies he told them, but maybe they know now. And , by the way, thanks for remembering my birthday, and me at Christmas. I thought we had something more than an "in-law" relationship. Too bad I'm not worth your consideration anymore. I still care about all you and remember you fondly. You were the MAIN REASON I PUT UP WITH DOUG'S ABUSE, but I hope that doesn't make you feel guilty.

263. YELLING at me in the work hallway, saying I had to take the rest of the day off to go visit my lawyer with him, (but I gave him another chance).

264. MAKING me leave the house that I tried to make so nice, (but I gave him another chance).

265. Not letting me go home to Utica to attend Tammy's funeral, (but I gave him another chance).

266. MAKING me quit ****** **** with no notice, (but I gave him another chance). And money was just flowing out of our asses, right? Stupid prick.

267. Not eating the sweet and sour chicken that I made for him even though I had a horrible cold, (but I gave him another chance).

268. MAKING me stay up all night entertaining his friends when I had to get up at 4am to go work at Burger King the next a.m. (but I gave him another chance).

269. PUNCHING a hole in his bedroom door at his parents house, and being too lazy to fix it before they came back from FL, (but I gave him another chance). He completely ruined his family's FL trip by coming home early to check on me

270. THROWING his dad's golf clubs in front of his mom, on their front lawn, and continuing a fight so big that his mom actually bummed a cigarette from me, (but I gave him another chance).

271. THREATENING me at the golf course, saying I wanted his cousin's friend, and YELLING at me about the cigarettes in my pocket, (but I gave him another chance).

272. Didn't care that my new white shoes got all dirty at the US Open and wouldn't slow down enough for me to catch up to him traipsing all over the course, (but I gave him another chance).

273. Telling me I was a terrible cook and "always burned everything" and constantly picked on me (but I gave him another chance each time he said something hateful).

274. Quitting the NY supermarket when he had no other job lined up and we were still so poor. ( It was deja vu but I gave him another chance ).

275. SCREAMING and YELLING at me about the cracks in the driveway, (but I gave him another chance).

276. SCREAMING and YELLING at me about us perhaps not getting a black railing for the townhouse front stairs, (but I gave him another chance).

277. SCREAMING and YELLING about the leather chair not being "even" and then about it not being real leather, and calling home and questioning me over and over about how to tell if it was real leather, (but I gave him another chance).

278. YELLING at and HITTING me after he made he call 10 places in Laurel asking if they had chicken wings and they didn't (but I gave him another chance). So he blamed me for that, (but I gave him another chance).

279. YELLING because I wouldn't let him get a parakeet, (but I gave him another chance).

280. YELLING that I "always slammed the van door" (but I gave him another chance).

281. YELLING that we would never get a house, over and over and over for 3 years, (but I gave him another chance).

282. Telling me that I couldn't give to charity, but making ME be the one to turn down solicitors (but I gave him another chance).

283. Anytime I drove the van he went out to check it to see if I bumped the fender or anything, (but I gave him another chance).

284. MAKING me move the furniture around whenever he wanted to, and NEVER writing down how the wires were connected as I advised each time, so every time he screamed and YELLED at me because he couldn't put them all back correctly, (but I gave him another chance).

285. Lying to my mom about how the table broke, (but I gave him another chance).

286. SCREAMING about the soda cans falling on the car, (but I gave him another chance).

287. SCREAMING about the car breaking down, (but I gave him another chance).

288. SCREAMING about Ringo digging holes, (but I gave him another chance every time).

289. Not going to Tom's party and beeping in the driveway for me to come out, (but I gave him another chance).

290. SCREAMING about how hot it was in the car, (but I gave him another chance).

291. MAKING me lie about how HE broke Mumbo's leg, that was no "accident"(but I gave him another chance).

292. SCREAMING about 2 lane highways and how trucks should be outlawed, (but I gave him another chance).

293. Saying I was stupid for planting herbs in the garden, (but I gave him another chance).

294. Eating and tearing up my cigarettes, growling like a wild animal, (but I gave him another chance).

295. YELLING that I walked Ringo too much, (but I gave him another chance).

296. SCREAMING and YELLING that we got ripped off with the house because there were cracks in the garage floor and no one would buy the house if we tried to sell it because obviously it was structurally unsound, (but I gave him another chance)

297. Accusing me of having affairs, (but I gave him another chance).

298. MAKING me be quiet when he wanted to take a nap, (but I gave him another chance).

299. Locking Ringo back up even if he'd been out of his house for < 1 hour, (but I gave him another chance).

300. THROWING and breaking all his aftershave bottles the same night the real estate agents were coming to visit the house. The house reeked of his colonges and it was horrible and I had to open all the windows (in December) and air the whole place out and God it was horrible! (but I gave him another chance). I can't remember why he was mad).

301. YELLING and SCREAMING that it was my fault that the Bills lost the Superbowls, (but I gave him another chance).,

302. Yelling at me saying that I "Didn't care' about things because I very rarely YELLED, but the few times I did yell I got HIT even worse, (but I gave him another chance).

303. Screaming "YOU WILL COME BACK TO ME! " at work, (but I gave him another chance). Why didn't I enforce that restraining order????

304. SCREAMING and YELLING at me and THROWING the dough across the kitchen because the metal finish came off onto his pizza dough, (but I gave him another chance)., (but I gave him another chance)., (but I gave him another chance).

305. NEVER MAKING 2 the pizza the way I wanted - no sauce, (but I gave him another chance). He said it was too hard to leave the sauce off

306. SCREAMING about the chicken having too much fat on it, (but I gave him another chance).

307. Breaking our wedding picture on my shoulder in the middle of the night, glass in my eyelashes, and cuts on my arm and shoulder and face, (but I gave him another chance).

308. SCREAMING that I never made anything good for dinner, (but I gave him another chance).

309. SCREAMING at me about his being bored.(but I gave him another chance).

310. Never helping to clean the house for company, (but I gave him another chance).

311. On our honeymoon night, not allowing me to get food because there was free shrimp (I'm allergic to seafood) and free hushpuppies (so he made me eat the hushpuppies but I gave him another chance). Meanwhile, he charged $40.00 for his drinks to our hotel room, and ate a hundred shrimp, (but I gave him another chance).

312. SCREAMING about the Brady Bunch movie being off track, and MAKING me call Blockbuster, (but I gave him another chance).

313. SCREAMING and YELLING at me every time he got lost driving somewhere, but never asking for directions, of course, (but I gave him another chance every time).

314. SCREAMING at YELLING at me during the 4 or 5 traffic jams we had on 74 in Fairview, (but I gave him another chance).

315. SCREAMING and YELLING and MAKING me measure and remeasure AND REMEASURE AND REMEASURE...the van bumpers because he thought they were not even, (but I gave him another chance).

316. Ruining the "out west" trip for me, (but I gave him another chance).

317. Screwing over the second set of movers with no tip, and not offering them any water, soda or food, (but I gave him another chance).

318. Glaring at me every time I coughed or made any noise when I ate, saying contemptuously, "You always choke! Watch what you eat! Finish chewing, then breathe, chew, breathe, chew breathe... .etc., (but I gave him another chance).

319. Badgering me about the car financing and the detail cost, (but I gave him another chance)., MAKING me live in a rat and roach infested, sewage seeping piece of shit when HE is living in lovely Fairview with cows and horses and views (but I give him a chance to be my friend).

320. His lying to his parents about everything, (but I gave him another chance).

321. Not letting me get Chinese food, (but I gave him another chance).

322. FORCING me to take my driver's test, even though I didn't know how to parallel park and was crying , (but I gave him another chance). and not congratulating me after I passed, only bitching about how long it was taking to get my picture taken, embarrassing me, but I gave him another chance)

323. Not helping , except for the big stuff, any time that we moved, even when I had a hernia (but I gave him another chance each time).

324. Telling his parents, after they had driven for 8 hours to help us move to Asheville, that I ripped up one of our wedding pictures and MAKING the environment VERY tense, (but I gave him another chance).

325. MAKING me do the WX records, and if I didn't he'd scream and yell "what kind of Meteorologist are you????" and say I didn't care about the weather etc., Duh, who wouldn't let me pursue a career in Meteorology? That f***ing prick . (but I gave him another chance). Now HE works with, and is friends with, the only Meteorology references I have. Like they believe me over him, right? My career is over.

326. MAKING me be quiet when he slept during the day, (but I gave him another chance daily).

327. YELLING about Dr. bills and RANTING about how we should have a national health system etc., (but I gave him another chance). and SCREAMING at me if I disagreed, (but I gave him another chance).

328. Telling me I was a baby and not being supportive when I was sad about giving Ringo away, saying "You'd better not use this as an excuse to start smoking again, (but I gave him another chance).

329. Not being supportive, and even being a particularly bad creep about the brand new grill not being balanced, MAKING me call Home Depot and SCREAMING and YELLING and MAKING me even more exasperated when it was the first day I gave up smoking and was going through major withdrawal, deliberately wanting me to fail(but I gave him another chance).

330. SCREAMING many many times about how he would quit his job and take us into the woods and live like hermits and YELLING AT ME at me when I didn't agree on that course of action, (but I gave him another chance every time).

331. SCREAMING and YELLING at me over and over again about what the townhouse appraisals would come in at and what would we do if they were only 90,000 etc., (but I gave him another chance daily, until the appraisals came in OK).

332. Never cleaning up cat/dog urine, poop, puke, because it made him "gag", so I had to do it, (but I gave him another chance to help in other ways, which he didn't).

333. SCREAMING at me and MAKING me call about the HO insurance dividend not being 25% in NC, as it was in MD, and then YELLING that it as all my fault because I wanted to move here. all over $30.00, (but I gave him another chance).

334. THREATENING to quit his job after his first week in Asheville, (but I gave him another chance).

335. Trying to get me pregnant when he always "FORGOT" to pull out, (but I gave him another chance to control me). Thank God I never got pregnant.

336. SCREAMING and yelling about the sump pump, (but I gave him another chance)

337. Chasing after me down the hall and YELLING "Karen, Karen..." When I finally had to stop out of sheer embarrassment he started bugging me about the separation agreement, saying loudly and 2 way crying, "You are screwing me over Karen, I can't believe you!" right in front of Vickie's cubicle, (but I gave him another chance to break the restraining order)

338. Realizing he was going the wrong way, on New Year's Eve, he made a wicked sharp U-turn in the snow covered road and we went into the median ditch,, Stuck, he screamed and YELLED at me and made me go to a nearby church and ask for help, (but I gave him another chance)

339. MAKING me call ********and over again about a job, when he never returned my calls, (but I gave him another chance)

340. Only going grocery shopping when he wanted to, (but I gave him another chance)

341. Had to pay the bills how and when he wanted, without any input from me, (but I gave him another chance)

342. SCREAMING at me and saying he wouldn't give me the furniture he has agreed to give me, (but I said it was OK because he was upset and gave him another chance)

343. Breaking the 20" TV console by THROWING the remote at it,(but I gave him another chance). after that you could only use the remote at a particular, and hard to find, angle, and he'd YELL and SCREAM at me that the TV was a apiece of shit" and bitch that it was difficult to use the remote and change the channel, (but I gave him another chance) After as couple of years he fixed it.

344. SCREAMING at me about the trees not blooming, YELLING out in front of the house, (but I gave him another chance)

345. Him SCREAMING his head off when we turned onto the wrong road coming home from my (dreadful) confirmation, (but I gave him another chance).

346. SCREAMING and YELLING about staining the furniture on the balcony in Laurel,(but I gave him another chance).

347. Not letting me go home to Utica after college graduation, (but I gave him another chance).

348. Only turning on the heat/air, opening/closing windows when he wanted to, (but I gave him another chance)

349. Always "shushing" me, (but I gave him another chance),

350. Never cleaning his bathroom, even when guests were coming to visit, (but I gave him another chance)

351. SCREAMING and YELLING AT ME if the checkbook wasn't balanced, blaming me if it didn't, when he was the one who insisted on going to the moneymatic every other day so he could get beer, and sometimes MAKING me sit down with him to figure it all out and he could scream "OH MY GOD, THE BANK IS RIPPING US OFF!" or "OH MY GOD WE'RE GOING TO BOUNCE A CHECK" OR "OH MY GOD, HOW SHORT ARE WE?", (but I gave him another chance, and tried to hide the bank statements from him)

352. Never letting me sleep late the few times that I wanted to in 7.5 years,(but I gave him another chance).

353. SCREAMING AT ME in townhouse hallway, THREATENING to smash my head open with the hammer, THROWING it and (I think deliberately) HITTING the door behind me and indenting it, and cowering in the corner, me seeing a man outside looking in the open door from the street behind the house, and I was embarrassed that he saw Doug beating me up and pretended that I was doing some cleaning, telling Doug to stop because someone was watching, (but I gave him another chance) God I wish that man called the police. I needed help so bad that night.

354. MAKING me stay overnight at his dorm room and iron his graduation gown, when I had work to do at my apartment, (but I gave him another chance)

355. SCREAMING that it was more expensive here than in MD and made me sit down with all the utility bills to figure out how come it costs so much, (but I gave him another chance),

356. Not letting me go to the famous haunted house in San Diego, (but I gave him another chance - after all San Diego was 3,000 miles from home and I could go again anytime, according to him)

357. Making us drive to see the Grand Canyon, Lava Flows, Dinosaur tracks, Painted Desert and Indian Ruins all in one day, and we were back in our hotel by 7 p, (but I gave him another chance) That evening and then Doug said he was bored, (but I gave him another chance)

358. For a long time, not letting me smoke in the van, until the time came where HE wanted a cigarette while driving,(but I gave him another chance and he finally let me).

359. Not letting me tilt the seat back in the car/van, because, even though I had the seatbelt on, I might slip under it and out the "deathseat" window and it was just too dangerous, but it wasn't too dangerous to slam on the breaks and go from 65 to 0 in 10 seconds because he was lost or upset about something like his haircut , (but I gave him another chance every time),

360. SCREAMING and breaking the screen window in the spare townhouse bedroom for some reason I can't remember, squeezing it and crushing it, then MAKING ME look up the subcontractor (from our closing papers) and finding out how to get replacement, (but I gave him another chance) and SCREAMING AND YELLING AT ME ABOUT HOW MUCH IT WAS GOING TO COST, and also that it didn't match the color exactly !!!!!

361. SCREAMING AND YELLING AT ME about the spider mites in the plants we bought at Franks, (but I gave him another chance),

362. MAKING me have sex after every time we went swimming, (but I gave him another chance to respect the fact I didn't want to),

363. MAKING ME get the door when the downstairs neighbor at Greenbelt apts. was pounding on our door incessantly, (but I gave him another chance to protect me)

364. Not letting me have a sip of his soda ever, (but I gave him another chance)

365. YELLING and SCREAMING AT ME while building the compost holder and FORCING me to help him and figure out the best way to do it etc., (but I gave him another chance),

366. SCREAMING and YELLING AT ME about the townhouse woods being torn down and our property value going down to nothing, (but I gave him another chance),

367. Telling me I was a "f***ing rag" and a "bloody f***ing c***" all the time, (but I gave him another chance every time) After all, he was "just upset"...

368. SCREAMING and YELLING AT ME about the grass in the townhouse backyard, (but I gave him another chance)

369. SCREAMING and YELLING AT ME and FORCING ME to call the maintenance people about the townhouse flooding in the backyard, (but I gave him another chance)

370. SCREAMING and YELLING AT ME about the townhouse value and MAKING me call places to figure out how much other people paid for their townhouse, etc., (but I gave him another chance)

371. Relentless complaining about his back and neck, (but I gave him another chance)

372. Not letting me open the car windows, (but I gave him another chance)

373. YELLING AT ME about the carpet sliding , in every place we lived, and RANTING that we would NEVER be able to find carpet tape that would hold securely, (but I gave him another chance)

374. Telling me that my breasts weren't normal looking and he wished they were different, (but I gave him another chance, because I thought he was right)

375. FREAKING OUT and SCREAMING and YELLING about being at the gas station where the gas pumped too slow, (but I gave him another chance, and another after he went back to the same one the next day and still was slow and again he bitched)

376. Not letting us take dance lesson before our wedding, but that turned out to be OK because he only danced with me ONCE, and then IGNORED ME AND DRANK WITH HIS FRIENDS AT OUR WEDDING(but I gave him another chance).

377. I WAS THE ONLY ONE WHO WENT TO THE INDIVIDUAL TABLES TO THANK EVERYONE, WHILE DOUG WAS AT THE BAR, (but I gave him another chance), He also ignored me the night before our wedding at the party, (but I gave him another chance), (but I had given him another chance).

378. Making me nervous on MY first plane ride, glaring at growling at me when I pretended that I enjoyed it, to help appease him. Yelling at me saying I didn't care about his concerns over crashing...(but I gave him another chance)

379. Not letting me speak in the Dallas airport because he as scared to get on the plane and didn't sleep well (I hadn't slept at all but I complied)

380. Yelling and SCREAMING at me about road construction on every trip - especially going thru Pa, .(but I gave him another chance each time )

381. SCREAMING about having to go to the moneymatic 2 or 3 times a week to take out $20 each time, when he wouldn't let me take out $60 once a week. .(but I gave him another chance)

382. Not letting us get fast food unless he wanted it .(but I gave him another chance, as I was so fat anyway)

383. Waking me up in the middle of the night at Rosa's and punching the shit out of me, because "he was upset" (but I gave him another chance)

384. SCREAMING and yelling at me about rocks hitting the windshield on the beltway .(but I gave him another chance every day)

385. Shooting at and killing birds and squirrels, when I begged him not to, .(but I gave him another chance)

386. Punching holes in the Greenbelt apt and making me go to the rental office to lie about how it happened, and forcing me to help him repair it. HE ALWAYS MADE ME GO WITH HIM TO GET THE F***ING DRYWALL TO FIX EVERY F***ING HOLE HE EVER F***ING MADE IN EVERY F***ING WALL AND MADE ME HELP HIM EVERY F***ING TIME BUT I ALWAYS GAVE HIM ANOTHER F***ING CHANCE .

387. Trying to scare me, saying he'd "been to my new trailer". (But I still gave him another chance to be my friend)

388. Violently ripping and breaking my rosary hanging from the rear view mirror .(but I gave him another chance)

389. Often telling me I should hate my parents .(but I gave him another chance to be nice)

390. Telling me I was flabby and gross and ugly and always scowling and if I left him no one else would want me .(but I gave him another chance , after all, he made me not care about how I looked and he deserved someone ugly)

391. Telling me that no one likes me here, .(but I gave him another chance to be friends)

392. Making us stay at the house in Fairview that first night, even though the floor was horribly wet, and SCREAMING about Bailey crying and about how bad the water tasted and we got ripped off because the well was contaminated.....(but I gave him another chance)

393. Yelling at me when I told him what I thought WX channel salaries were .(but I gave him another chance)

394. Forcing me to work on projects with him, then he'd stop before it was completely finished and he was bored, leaving me to finish and clean up alone .(but I gave him another chance each time)

395. Making me make his coffee daily, but I was always scared it would be too hot or I didn't have it turned the right way on the counter so he could easily pick it up.

396. SCREAMING about the vacuum cleaner being broken and how couldn't afford a new vacuum and "OH MY F***ING GOD HOW MUCH ARE VACUUMS $300? $400? WHAT? WHAT ? HOW COME YOU DON'T KNOW HOW MUCH A F***ING VACUUM CLEANER IS ?" and so on... when, as I kept telling him, all we needed was a $2.00 belt, .(but I gave him another chance)

397. Making fun of me when I threatened to leave, "Where are you going to go? HUH? WHERE YOU GONNA FUCKIN GO????BACK TO YOUR LOSER F**KING PARENTS IN F***ING F***ING LOSER F***ING F***ING F***ING UTICA?" etc. (but he was right, so I gave him another chance) (That is a direct quote - I am not exaggerating with the "F's"

398. Yelling at me in the hallway at work, (I asked for it because it was yet another opportunity I had given him), saying "I'm telling (SUPERVISOR)!"

399. SCREAMING about air conditioning not working in Laurel apt, and yelling at me about it..(but I always gave him another chance)

400. Saying that people would never believe me over him and that I was crazy and he was right

401. Making me so angry but being so scared to fight back I would just pull my hair out in clumps .(but I stayed with him and gave him another chance)

402. Saying I was "a Hypochondriac...just like your mother!!!!, so I made sure I didn't complain anymore but if I slipped up and complained and he YELLED I was faking it always gave him a second chance.

403. Trying to turn the tables on me and trying to make it look like I was abusing him! (but I always gave him another chance to calm down and be my friend)

404. SCREAMING AND YELLING AT ME about the azaleas being deciduous (but I gave him another chance)

405. When I was scared he'd embarrass me so I spoke softly he'd scream at me "WHAT???? I CAN'T HEAR YOU! DON'T BE AFRAID TO SPEAK!!!" (I looked like an idiot but I gave him another chance every time).

406. Saying I said "like" all the time and sounded stupid (he was right but I always gave him another chance to not be mean about it)

407. YELLING and SCREAMING at me about the WX station cord (but I gave him another chance)

408. SCREAMING AND YELLING AT ME that they were raising the speed limit on 240 to 55 mph and we'd be killed everyday going home and RANTING and raving about it (but I always gave him another chance)

409. Never making the bed at Rosa's even though he "passed a rule" that the last one out made it. He tailored this to suit his needs but I always gave him another chance to help

410. At Rosa's, made me sit in the dark with no TV on while he slept in the living room, usually, not the bedroom.(but I always gave him another chance)

411. SCREAMING AND YELLING AT ME about how the 2 x 10's ruined the top of the van, and deliberately not letting me check to see after he realized it had just bent (but I always gave him another chance)

412. Making me go into the store to get his beer, even though it embarrassed me (but I always gave him another chance to do it himself, which,, after about 4 years in MD , he agreed to get it half the time)

413. Coercing me to "suck it". "Come on Kar, just suck it...you never do.... " He's lucky I didn't bite it off.

414. Never bathing the animals unless he felt like it (but I always gave him another chance)

415. Never cleaning up after giving them baths (but I always gave him another chance)

416. SCREAMING and YELLING at ME and the animals, CHOKING them and EVEN PUNCHING THE CATS in the bathtub. PUNCHING A CAT???!!!!! WHO DOES THAT? AND HOW DID THEY LIVE THROUGH THAT?(but I always gave him another chance)

417. Telling me I was a bad wife because I never wanted to go to the beach (but I always gave him another chance)

418. Yelling at me if I threw out leftovers, (but I always gave him another chance).

419. SCREAMING "I CAN'T SEE THREW YOUR F***ING HEAD!!!!!!! When he as driving, (but I always gave him another chance)

420. Wearing my clothes 2 or 3 times between washings because he always complained about the cost of detergent, but I made sure his clothes were fresh. (My fault, but I was avoiding his bitching at me)

421. SCREAMING and YELLING at me, saying I didn't make enough spaghetti, noodles, rice, whatever, but he'd bitch if I made too much also (but I always gave him another chance)

422. YELLING and SCREAMING at me that he never wanted the townhouse, but he wouldn't stop hitting, yelling at me etc., until he bought it... (but I always gave him another chance)

423. Making me leave work early when he wanted to return the computer, even thought I was very busy (but I always gave him another chance)

424. Making me watch the WX channel and quizzing me over and over again about barometric pressure and our elevation and why our WX station pressure didn't match the airports and it was broken and it drifted 5 mbs per day and riving me crazy (but I always gave him another chance)

425. Making me make all the phone calls, then asking me over and over again, "What did they say? Tell me again, what exactly did they say...????"(but I always gave him another chance to make a call himself)

426. Making me rub his back all the time for the first couple of years, and never reciprocating (but I always gave him another chance)

427. Making me gather all of our payroll statements and add up he vacation hours to be sure they weren't screwing with my time, SCREAMING and yelling at me if they weren't filed in order (but I always gave him another chance, and tried to be more careful when filing)

428. SCREAMING and YELLING at me about the townhouse fireplace. " Was it in the wrong place?" Does it look stupid? It's all your fault for not getting it downstairs etc.(but I always gave him another chance)

429. Making me hold his wallet all the time

430. Not letting us spend any money to eat out when we were getting ready to move until he said it was OK to.

431. SCREAMING and YELLING AT ME in MD, about how the snow always turned to rain during the winter storms and MD sucked and he hated it and he was going to quit is job and move home and live in his parents cellar (but I always gave him another chance, and prayed for snow)

432. Never acknowledging all the stuff I did and put up with for him (but I always gave him another chance)

433. Insisting on paying extra for fed ex 2-day delivery and ordering the weather station and computer right before a vacation so it was very very stressful, (but I always gave him another chance)

434. Making me spend 1 hour + helping him rewind the cord to the WX station he was returning, swearing and bitching the whole time (but I always gave him another chance)

435. Breaking my sunglasses "accidentally" and not apologizing (but I always gave him another chance)

436. RANTING and raving about his new suit - that the cuffs were too big and he wasted his money and ruining his parents visit (but I always gave him another chance)

437. Not thanking me for spending all weekend hemming the pants he said did not fit him, and never wearing them anyway (but I always gave him another chance).

438. The torture of having to help him buy a pair of pants (but I always gave him another chance)

439. Him defacing the memento of my high school reunion, writing "loser, cunt ,whore" etc. next to my name, when I didn't even go to my reunion because I was scared he'd embarrass me or meet one of my old boyfriends and get mad. (but I always gave him another chance)

440. Forcing me to get fish, promising to take care of them but never feeding his fish, and SCREAMING and YELLING AT ME everytime we cleaned the fishtank. (But, I gave him another chance)

441. Not letting me cover up the bowl with "Mr. big pink kissy fish" while we were cleaning the tank, because he was yelling and too anxious for us to get the cleaning started. The fish, my favorite, jumped out, landed on the carpet, and even though we got him back into the bowl (and I made sure I covered it this time) he died the next day. (But I gave him another chance)

442. SCREAMING and YELLING and HITTING me because he thought I liked the Tom Petty album more than the new Paul McCartney album. Crushing the cassette and said I couldn't listen to Tom Petty anymore. ( but I gave him another chance)

443. Taking the phone to work with him so I couldn't call home.

444. Not letting me go to my cousin Mel's wedding, Oct 12 weekend, when my mom, gram and several cousins and relatives I hadn't seen in 10-15 years would be there... Too bad. Had I gone, I probably wouldn't have left Doug - at least not that weekend.

445. SCREAMING and yelling about the cost of cable everywhere we lived was the highest rate in the country.....(but I gave him another chance).

446. SCREAMING about the bags of fertilizer - throwing them to the ground, splitting them open, because he didn't purchase enough to do the whole lawn.(but I gave him another chance).

447. Making me flinch with his sudden, violent movements.(but I gave him another chance).

448. Only buying me flowers twice in our relationship - once a little vase for valentines day , the other for $5.00 at the side of the road and he bitched about how outrageous the cost was and how he thought I was crazy for saying a dozen long stemmed roses could be $70.00 from a florist in DC.

449. Asking me where he could buy some candy for his new girlfriend....What a creep. In all that time HE NEVER ONCE BOUGHT ME ANY CANDY TO MAKE UP FOR BEING ABUSIVE!!!!!!!!

450. Never buying me anything nice to make up for hitting, yelling etc.(but I gave him another chance).

451. Making us sit in our apt doing absolutely nothing while my dad and Nancy sat in their hotel room in Laurel doing absolutely nothing.

452. Pinching me and being a jerk when we had our picture taken together.(but I gave him another chance).

453. Saying he'd bomb buildings.

454. Waking me up in the middle of the night and crushing our wedding picture on my head and shoulders. The glass was everywhere and I had cuts all over my face and arm and glass was stuck in my eyelashes. He then made me talk to him for over an hour about what was wrong with our relationship.

455. Never making me a birthday cake, even when his mother mailed him the cake mix, and he knew how I always wanted one.(but I gave him another chance). Was it so f***ing hard to make me a f***ing cake?

456. His being too lazy to go up to the window at Laurel Race Track, asking both me and his mom to do it for him. When we didn't (I was feeling brave enough to say no) he was mad and kept telling us to, but we wouldn't. He didn't either, and it turned out that those numbers would have paid $6,000 +. Lazy creep - I could have left him then, had I thought I'd live through it.

457. SCREAMING and yelling and hitting me and Ringo, when he would have Ringo locked up and he would scratch on the door - Doug would run downstairs at the speed of light to get some good punches in before I would be right behind him , trying to protect the dog. I'd jump in between them or on top of Doug to try to make him stop and protect Ringo, but Doug would just scream at me and fling me away from them, so he could continue to pound on Ringo. That poor dog. If I had not given up that night and said yes to his pleading for a dog Ringo never would have had to put up with such a miserable life. Still I miss Ringo.

458. Never helping me with the dog, dishes, or entertaining at his parents house.

459. SCREAMING and yelling about the driver's seat in the Shadow not being even. (but I gave him another chance).

460. Jumping on top of me, SCREAMING and yelling and holding my arms down with his legs and biting my face. (but I gave him another chance).

461. Making me quit the job at the ER gas station, even before I started, because I "might see guys" and "it would be too dangerous"

462. Not letting me investigate the NIMO Power job at Oswego in '89.

463. SCREAMING and yelling at me for keeping the cash we took out for our FL trip in my purse - SCREAMING and berating me for not leaving it at home where it was "safe". I BROUGHT IT TO WORK BECAUSE I WAS SURE IF I LEFT IT HOME HE'D HAVE SCREAMED "WHAT IF THERE WAS A FIRE???????? AND SCREAM HOW IRRESPONSIBLE I WAS!!! God he is unpredictable(but I gave him another chance).

464. SCREAMING and yelling about the MD taxes. (but I gave him another chance).

465. Constantly touching my head and asking "Are you going bald?: If I said no he'd insist I was, if I said yes, he'd yell, I can't believe I'm going to be with a bald woman.... No matter what I said....

466. Measuring the ceiling rafters over and over again, yelling and SCREAMING....

467. Always telling me that I babbled and embarrassed him...Like he didn't embarrass himself SCREAMING at me in the mall all the time???? MORON.

468. Breaking his mom's antique table and then making me lie to her about how it happened.

469. Realizing he really broke my arm, (the next day) he went to the store to get me some ice, and some ice cream for me - to make me feel better. After he left I locked all the doors and called "Helpmate". They told me to get out of the house and call the police immediately, but I didn't have the guts. They did give me advice about restraining orders, their support groups and such. They were the first people to tell me that what Doug did was wrong, but I still thought I deserved his abuse. As soon as Doug came back I realized they were right. The creep had purchased some HIS FAVORITE ICE CREAM- BUTTER PECAN! I HATE THAT FLAVOR AND HE KNOWS IT!!! Then he sneered as he said, "I spend $14.00 for you at the store! Aren't you gonna say thanks?". That prick, I should have called the police.

470. SCREAMING about how poor we were but never considering how much we spent replacing the $3,500+ worth of things he broke. That was my last accounting of it after 3 of the 7.5 years- I'm sure the total is much higher...

471. Calling my poor old Grandmother on Jan 6, 1998. What a scumbucket. I'm glad she hung up on him. Gram's pretty smart!

472. SCREAMING about the wind blowing over the peppers and making us go home during lunch to check on them. Finding that the seedlings had blown over he violently whipped what remained over the balcony and threw the chair into the middle of the yard. DIRT AND PLANTS WERE ALL OVER MY SUIT AS I DUCKED TO NOT GET HIT BY THE PLANTS BUT HE WOULDN"T LET ME GO INSIDE TO CHANGE MY CLOTHES!!!!!!!!! THEN WE WERE LATE COMING BACK TO WORK !!!!! HE DIDN'T CARE.

473. SCREAMING about the traffic on the BW Parkway and how everyday it was a backup and I tried to quell him by saying it was only when it rained and he said I was stupid for saying that and blah blah blah... Months later I produced documentation - a correlation of rainy wx vs. backups. He didn't care, especially when I was right.

474. Not letting me go to church, saying it was a cult that brainwashed me. No, I think HE brainwashed me.

475. Not letting me get a professional job so I could make some real money and leave him.

476. Leaving me in the bar with his friends who came up for the weekend while he played darts with the locals.

477. After he kicked me down a flight of stairs at the hotel in Toronto, and he dragged me up the stairs by my hair he made me give him oral sex in the hotel bathroom - when his parents were on the balcony of the same room! What was I going to do? I didn't have a car or license, credit card job or money-with his parents and in another country. I couldn't even use the phone to call my parents, who didn't have any money anyway. I had just moved to his home town. I felt trapped.

478. SCREAMING about his neck hurting. That I was giving him stress by my desire to see a therapist. Making me rub his back and listen to him rant about how he has cancer.....

479. Yelling at me and beating me up everytime Rob sent me an unsolicited letter.

480. SCREAMING that I always put the camcorder in the bag wrong, no matter how delicately I did it. Nothing I did was right.

481. SCREAMING about the tires blowing up every time he put air in the tires.

482. FORCING me to get Ringo by YELLING for hours and then finally PUNCHING me in the arm, but I gave him another chance.

483. Yelling at me in the jewelry store when we were picking out our engagement ring. He almost hit me right there because I was picking out rings that were too small. I said I didn't want him to buy something he couldn't afford since he didn't have a job. He was furious, yelling "I'm not gonna let people think I'm a cheap piece of shit for not getting you a good ring!" I was SO embarrassed, as usual.

484. Telling me to shut up and let him sleep when I had a gall-bladder attack in the middle of the night.

485. Telling me that I had to pay for 50 % of the Dr. bills from my broken arm. It was HE who broke my arm. But, if I hadn't been trying to call his mother (like he ordered me to) I wouldn't have made him mad and I wouldn't have MADE HIM break my arm. Plus, it was my arm, not his. Why should he pay for the whole thing when it isn't his arm? (This is the mentality of an abuser).

486. Saying "The Color Purple" was his favorite movie of all time. Hello? It's about a woman overcoming Domestic Abuse! I guess he missed that point. God, that made me furious.

487. Always saying I was "stupid".

488. SCREAMING and YELLING at me the night before his WI trip, telling me he wasn't going to go, SCREAMING that, if he couldn't sleep he'd quit his job and move back home etc. and YELLED all night and made me turn off the lights and the TV in the living room saying I had to go to bed even though I couldn't sleep either. (This was the last straw - I decided at that point there would be no more chances. I cried all night long, maybe sleeping for 10 or 15 minutes, having come to that conclusion) I thought about it objectively. "How someone could treat another so badly for 7.5 years?" I pretended it was happening to someone else, and tried to see it from an outsiders point of view. I looked back on every day since May 12, 1989, as I could hear him screaming and ranting in the background. I had no good memories of any of it. He never cared to consider how I feel. He could control his temper with others but not with me. I had no choice but to believe he enjoyed hitting and yelling at me. I realized he was selfish and insensitive and that he wouldn't ever change. I was suicidal, and smoking and drinking and anorexic and scared he would really kill me and then he'd let Bailey starve or punch him to death, or throw him off the deck. I realized he wouldn't let me get out alive. He would continue to destroy me until there was nothing left. I was barely alive, but there was still a tiny part of me that was scared to die, and I had to take care of my cat, because no one else would. I gave myself one last chance at life. HOW MANY MORE CHANCES WOULD I GIVE HIM ? None.

I gave up trying and praying he would change. After I was sure he was at least an hour up the road I left the only family, house, career, and everything I ever had. I was so scared. I had no idea what was to become of me, if he didn't kill me before I could find out. I learned that Battered Womens Shelters are not typically a huge room with 100 cots set up! They are usually huge houses in excellent neighborhoods and can be very nice! The people at Helpmate helped me so much.

I let him keep the house, his job (he should be in jail), and his good reputation, and I regret it now. All I could think of was my safety. And that IS the most important thing but after the dust settles get a lawyer (there is plenty of free legal advice) and fight for what is yours, ladies. You are priceless, not what he says you are. You deserve half of everything, at the bare minimum, AND TO BE REPAID FOR EVERYTHING OF YOURS THAT HE BROKE!

Even after all this time, I'm still trying to get over it all, but knowing I am helping others with this web site has helped me a lot.

Good Luck and God Bless,