I'm not a saint, a martyr or an angel.
I've had more partners than is acceptable to the standards and moral values of many. This once bothered me, but no longer does. As I sit here reviewing my life, I realize that, even though I was looking in the wrong places, I was looking for substance and communication.
I am not endorsing or condemning any type of behavior, merely stating a fact... that "you can get there from here", wherever your "here" is.
I have learned valuable lessons from every relationship. I have grown. This is the important part. I have watched people repeat the same patterns of abuse in one relationship after another, always seeking the same type of partner in relationships that can only have one outcome.
Like the cliché example of a battered woman who consistently chooses a man who will beat her, we all have our individual pattern. Discovering and breaking the pattern leads to integration, stops the pattern from ruling your relationships and your life, liberates you to love and be loved. Then, as if by magic, a different type of person is drawn to you and you to them.
By improving myself, I have improved my relationships.
As far as significant relationships go -- those which have altered my course through life -- my partners have included
- a heterosexual woman
- a bisexual woman
- a heterosexual man
- a homosexual man
- a bisexual man
