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Conflict and Anger

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Conflict and Anger

And: Here is 'Conflict'

Life is not that we have 'conflict, rather what we do about 'conflict'. Conflict can be the spice of life, the sandpaper to smooth the rough edges. If we view 'conflict' as an opportunity, 'conflict' becomes a dance of energy.

    We can learn to move, to embrace 'conflict'.
    The goal is to blend and harmonize.
    We have a responsibility to get out of the way, when the freight train comes.
    A molehill can become a mountain when 'conflict' repeat themes, such as; 'Loss'; 'Hurt', 'Unfair', 'Stupid'', etc.
    Life's situations can frequently be viewed through distortions and overgeneralizations.
    How often do you hear others use words like; "Always", "Never", "Every", "None", etc. And of course, how often do you hear yourself using these same words. Probably less frequently.

Anger and Conflict are closely related, although 'Anger' is an emotion and 'Conflict' is more closely related to perceptions of others' behaviors.
What patterns can indicate to you that your 'Anger' may be becoming a problem?
Here are five specific signals that tell you when your 'Anger' is creating problems for you.
  1. When it is too frequent.
  2. When it lasts too long
  3. When it is too intense.
  4. When it leads to aggression. Agression can be expressed verbally or physically.
  5. When it disturbs work or relationships.
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Anger


How often have you heard yourself saying, "I try to control my emotions", esp. 'anger'; but, they just seem to get the best of me. Something usually snaps.
Some people have described themselves saying, "I just snapped"; "I lost control"; "I have a knack for drama", when referring to their display of emotions. People around them have no doubt that they are experiencing emotions. On the other hand, some people hold onto their feelings (emotions) so well, they appear stonefaced or nonemotional. These people are no less emotional, they just display their emotions differently.
Many people are tired of the topsy-turvy lifestyle controlled by behaviors that appear out of control. Most people want to feel content with who they are and with their abilities to handle interpersonal relationships appropriately.
Generally speaking, what purpose do our emotions serve? Understanding what attitudes and behaviors accompany each of our emotions is a skill of limitless potential. Think first of the emotions that we label as 'positive'(joy, peace, love, happiness). These positive emotions are to life what spice is to food. Experienced in the proper amount, they add flavor and zest.
However, what about the emotions we label as 'negative'? We label them as 'negative' because we believe that they have the potential for causing difficulty and problems. These various emotions serve as "warning flags" which indicate the need to take

inventory

of our thoughts, behaviors and attitudes.
  1. Most people want to display their emotions in an appropriate manner, however, maybe their skills are either 'a little rusty' or maybe the skills were not learned in the past. This opens the door for learning new skills.
  2. Want to know more or learn some skills to handle your behavior when you are angry?


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