"...But you say he's just a friend, oh babay"

How many of you believe in the myth of the manfriend?

OK, let me rephrase. How many of you have "platonic" relationships with straight men, who suddenly either a) mack on you when drunk or b) propose lifepartnership although the two of you have no chemistry? Then, how many of you lose said manfriend when you refuse either of the two options??

I think I've made my point. As you very well know, men are biologically programmed to have sexual thoughts, like, every 3.6 seconds, about anything.....period. I've heard tale of fantasies about every thing from airbrushed silicon-babes to Sister Mary Catherine with her ruler-happy ways to livestock (yeowch). And, as they say, one covets what one sees every day...

I will guarantee you that every guy you've had as a friend has probably in some way shape or form asked you out. The nice ones are so subtle that you will generally miss the signals, and he'll keep giving them to you below-radar in hopes that you'll subliminally come around. The not nice ones will generally get the courage by getting their drink on and then insult you with the full protection of their inebriated state ("I'm sorry, I was soooo drunk that night.."). Then after the day/night of reckoning, they stop returning your calls and scuttle away when you enter the room. Grow 'nads, superfly, grow 'nads!!

As one witty friend put it, "Men put in the QT for the boo-tee..."

At least in this enlightened age, men get some idea when you pull out the friend speech. Harry-met-Sally scenarios are rarified and idealized - you may be able to prove me wrong, but take a good look around you and realise that perhaps 1 in 10 has not had base thoughts about you simply because he's gunning for someone else.

Gaymanfriends are an entirely different ball of wax...so are "guyfriends with chemistry" (see below), and fuckfriends (future installment). This salvo's strictly for that category of guy that you feel close to but you'd burst into giggles at the thought of him naked.

Today's gem: That "guyfriend with chemistry"...(in which he may be the one holding out) could either mean he's gay (because men will screw women they don't even like) or he's fearing for his life (see cheaters - or see a shrink).

Coming Soon: I'm just a gigol(ette)...

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