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Some of our readers will already be aware of the activities, and the underlying beliefs, of an anti-gay organization called Homosexuals Anonymous (H.A.).
Ostensively formed as "a Christian fellowship of men and women who have chosen to help each other to live free from homosexuality" this organization claims to be both non-political and not a "crusade against 'gay' organizations or movements". H.A. also claims to be able to turn gay people into straight people - and all through the power of faith alone.
Nothing, of course, could be further from the truth.
The very fact that H.A. cannot write the word gay without also putting it in disparaging comment marks says much about what they believe and why they are - at their very heart - anti-gay in both attitude and action.
The comment marks are used in their literature because ultimately H.A. does not believe that gay men and women exist (as such). They do however believe that others should intervene to prevent those of us who are gay from having a sex life (as such) and to prevent those of us who are gay from pair-bonding with each other (as such).
Why one would need to intervene in a situation involving something that apparently doesn't really exist is just one of the many contradictions that underlie H.A.!
One also wonders - how else but anti-gay could one describe a group that claims the following beliefs? (from the H.A. website. Emphasis is ours):
- "...freedom and recovery from the spiritual, psychological and relational distortions of homosexuality."
- "H.A. does not... define the person's sexuality in terms of physical and emotional responses ... we see homosexuality as a symptom of a confused identity in relation to God, self and the world."
- "...gradually modifies the person's sexual identity and compulsive drives, bringing a healing repentance of destructive behavior and introducing more positive attitudes towards the opposite sex and the possibility of choice."
- "Homosexuals Anonymous, a Christian fellowship, holds the view that homosexual activity is not in harmony with the will of God and that the universal creation norm is heterosexuality."
- "H.A. believes that there is no such thing as a homosexual, only men and women, created by God heterosexually, who because of the broken world we live in, are confused over their sexual identity."
- "H.A. holds that the homosexual inclination may be healed and that all who desire it may realize their inborn, though fallen, heterosexuality, thus opening the way to heterosexual marriage and family."
- "The H.A. Fellowship, rather than perpetuating the homosexual subculture, contributes to its decline."
The group also:
- simplistically compares homosexuality to alcoholism and drug addiction (ignoring the obvious fact, for one, that few who drink are alcoholic - which begs the question why they regard all homosexuals as having some form of sexual addiction?)
- promotes the false idea that poor parenting and molestation cause one to become homosexual (an insult to parents with gay children and a deliberate attempt to portray gay men and women as dangerous predators)
- promotes the idea that homosexuality is form of mental illness - "Homosexual behavior is a mistaken attempt to meet a real need for non-sexual, same-sex, parent-child love." - in which immature individuals pathologically confuse sexual activity with affectional needs (that both could be found at the same time is not something H.A. appears able to consider possible).
- promote the writings and beliefs of such notoriously anti-gay people as Joseph Nicolosi, Leanne Payne, Charles Socarides, Jeffrey Satinover, Elizabeth Moberly, Fr. John Harvey, Gerard van den Aardweg and, surprise surprise, James Dobson. Anyone who follows the activities of the U.S. religious right will already be more than familiar with all these names and this alone shows how neatly the work of the ex-gay groups and the anti-gay religious right fit together.
- claims that anyone - with enough faith in Jesus - can stop being homosexual and become a happily married heterosexual with children. Despite the apparent conviction of their claim H.A. do not provide any proof. (Actually, they cannot because they do not keep such records to begin with!). All their program is taken on blind faith alone.
- completely ignores the very real (and documented) psychological damage done on the majority of those people who under-go their programme - damage that often ends in suicide, drug abuse, alcoholism and unsafe sexual activity because the victims have had their self-esteem crushed.
Perhaps the greatest "howler" that leapt out from the H.A. website was included in a statement they made about their own history. It reads:
"Homosexuals Anonymous began in November of 1980 as a result of two men, Colin, a former minister, and Doug, a former school principal, pooling their ideas on how to pass on to others what they had experienced in recovery from homosexuality."
Who, you may wonder, is "Colin"?
"Colin" is Colin Cook, and as a minister he become 'former' after being exposed as a homosexual in the mid-1970's. After precipitously jumping into marriage with a woman in 1978, Cook founded H.A. and until 1995 was heavily promoted by conservative religious groups - particularly by those associated with the "Colorado for Family Values" (CFV) group that spearheaded a venomous campaign through the infamous "Amendment 2" referendum.
[Tactics employed by the CFV included distributing 500,000 slanderous flyers the day before the referendum that made such claims as "...homosexuals, who represent perhaps 2% of the population, perpetrate
more than one-third of all child molestations!" and "on account of a 'gay rights law,' a Laguna Beach mother was unable to press charges against three men who were having sex in a public restroom when her three-year-old boy walked in". Delivered at a time designed to make it impossible to refute before the referendum, both claims are completely false, as this letter to the editor of the Colorado Daily states.]
H.A., along with it's fellow travellers on the religious right, was up to it's eye-balls in this 1992 Colorado campaign and this makes complete nonsense of it's claims to be both non-political and not anti-gay. What H.A. could possibly imagine these two terms to actually mean beggars the imagination.
What is more outrageous is that H.A. also neglects to mention one salient fact in it's claim that Colin Cook had successfully experienced recovery from homosexuality. One is indeed left not knowing the real identity of this person referred to merely as "Colin", and are also left with the impression that he actually succeeded in ceasing to be homosexual. There is good reason for such obfuscation.
What H.A. should perhaps have mentioned is that Colin Cook is in disgrace after it was revealed in 1995 by the Denver Post that he was not only having homosexual sex while married and claiming to be an former homosexual; but that he was doing so with the young men placed in his charge as an ex-gay counsellor! To make matters worse - Cook had once before had a H.A. associated gay-change group collapse around him in 1986 when it emerged that for years he had secretly been seducing young men from within his ministry, including at least one 16 year old.
One can read a summary about Colin Cook here (and, by the way, also find an interesting site written by some Christian parents who have gay children - the search by many of these parents to reconcile the difference between what their religion had always "told" them about homosexuals and the contradictory evidence from their own children's lives makes for fascinating reading).
Apparently, "recovered from homosexuality" means to H.A. something rather different to what the rest of us would understand it be.
And apparently taking sexual advantage of emotionally fragile and under-age young men while they under your care is not sufficient reason to have your irrational and ignorant ramblings removed from the H.A. reading list. That should give many ex-gay counsellors a sense of comfort, given that so many of them do in fact "fall" with their fellow ex-gays - even, it seems, 20 years after you can claim to have fully "recovered".
At least to those radical Christian groups who mounted the anti-gay campaign in Colorado, it would also appear that the definition of "family values" include protecting a man who molests under-age boys to save themselves public embarrassment while at the same time spreading slanderous tracts that deliberately play on the fear-causing myth that all gay men and women are child molesters.
Such people are beneath contempt, and concerned by the malevolent activities of H.A., all done in the name of "Christian Love", we have decided to form our own group to assist those who instead seek freedom from anti-homosexual thoughts and behaviour.
We have called our group "Anti-homosexuals Anonymous".
For those interested in following our programme - one may do this at home by simply following the 14 Steps below. At each step you will need to think about why the point is important and to adjust your thoughts and deeds to match the demands of the step.
This 14 Step programme has been inspired (actually, ripped off entirely!) by the 14 Steps programme promoted by H.A. We have also included the H.A. steps so that you may compare the two programmes and thereby see why this deceitful group should be avoided if you wish to gain freedom from an anti-gay lifestyle.
Good Luck!
Grant & Dale
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