PROTECTING OUR CHILDREN:

WHO MOLESTS CHILDREN?

Child molesters come from all socioeconomic classes. Many are respected citizens in their community.

According to most studies, offenders start molesting children before they are 30 years old; therefore, it is not just the "dirty old man" that your child should be cautious of.

WHO ARE THE VICTIMS?

Most experts agree that boys and girls have an equal chance of being sexually abused, although some children are more likely to become victims than others. A child who is easily controlled by adults is an easy target.

Most molesters are known and trusted by their victims and use threats or rewards,not violence, to manipulate children into cooperating.

WHY DO INDIVIDUALS MOLEST CHILDREN?

There is no simple reason to explain why some adults sexually abuse children. Through studies of known molesters, researchers have uncovered some characteristics common to many offenders.

According to a study done by Dr. Nicholas Groth, at least 80% of sexual offenders were sexually abused or exposed to sexual abuse of other family members when they were children.

It is rare that a molester will stop after one victim or one incident. Many molesters are responsible for abusing large numbers of children. Some studies show averages between 50 and 100 victims per offender.

Many sexual offenders were under the influence of alcohol/drugs at the time the offense was committed. Very few offenders (less than 5%) are diagnosed as being mentally challenged or psychotic.

Many child abusers have trouble dealing with other adults. Some offenders have never had a "normal" male/female relationship, even though they may be married.

A comment from one of our visitors

The page states ....."According to a study done by Dr. Nicholas Groth, at least 80% of sexual offenders were sexually abused or exposed to sexual abuse of other family members when they were children." It is the same old abuse excuse used by child molesters to escape punishment that they so justly deserve. Of course they say they were sexually abused as children. Their attorneys use it and ask the courts to consider it for a lighter prison sentence. Child molesters use people like Dr. Groth to support their lies. There are millions of abused children that grow up and do not become child molesters. Most child molesters convicted the first time receive treatment and a lenient sentence, sometimes only probation. The lenient attitude towards this crime has given child molesters a free rein to continue their behavior. These child molesters are grown adults who have chosen to commit crimes against little children. It is almost unbelievable that our society can make excuses and tolerate such crimes against little innocent children. We need mandatory, long-term prison sentences for child molesters. Thank you for letting me express my views. Again, absolutely no disrespect intended. You have a great web site!

WHAT IF YOUR CHILD IS MOLESTED?

If a child tells you that he/she had been molested, believe him/her. A child rarely lies about being molested.

If a child tells you that he/she has been molested, control your temper. Reassure the child that you are not angry at him/her. They are probably already dealing with guilt feelings, especially if the offender is a relative or close family friend.

Do not blame the child for what happened. Cooperation is not he same as consent. A child doesn't have the mental capacity to consent to sexual interactions. Fear can keep a child from telling someone for a long time.

Keep the lines of communication open. Encourage your children to ask questions and talk about problems.

BAD TOUCHES

Sometimes, good touches, like hugs, can feel bad. If someone wants to touch you in a way you don't like, scream NO!

Some adults don't know they shouldn't touch children on their private parts.

Adults that touch children on their private parts need help.

Not all adults touch children in a bad way.

If someone touches you in a way you don't like, don't be afraid to tell someone. The person you tell can stop the bad touches from happening. If that person doesn't listen to you, tell another person until someone listens to you.

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