New guest submission added
May 12, 2000

My Perspectives... (and now YOURS)

This is the area where I will keep all my ideas and stories. Hopefully, this is also where I will add your views on what its like to be full-figured person in today's society. This section was originally geared towards women, but since I have had such a huge response from men, I have decided to change the layout and incorporate their views too!

Due to a tremendous response (which I am very thankful for :) I have decided to add an easy submission method. Please click here to be connected to the area to submit your stories or perspectives. This is NOT my guestbook. Thanks again for your support.

Stories by Me

"How I got this way" Added November 17, 1998
So, this is my first stab at writing my "perspectives". I apologize in advance if my writing style frightens you :) - I'm working on it though. And since I have about a million things I feel like saying through this website, I should have plenty of practice to get better.

Basically, this story is just a synopsis of how I ended up my size and confident (which really shouldn't be such a rare combination). I hope you enjoy it!



"Is there anybody out there?" Updated January 6, 1999
So, this is my second stab at writing... It is about my quest and desire to find a full-figured role model in today's society and subsequent failure to find one.

I do hope you enjoy it and I also hope it makes you think...



"Why are we supposed to be miserable?" Added November 30, 1998
Here's a story about something that REALLY bothers me. Its the assumption that just because you are overweight, you are miserable and depressed. Again, these are perceptions fueled by the media and commercials for diet aids - but sometimes we are own worst enemy.

I'd love to hear from people who feel the same as me on this subject - it will encourage those who don't to rethink why they're letting themselves feel down. Enjoy!



"My favorite sayings" Added November 30, 1998
This is a compilation of my favorite sayings that I have been collecting over the years. They are extremely positive and every time I read over them, I feel fantastic. I hope they have a similar effect on your!



"Beauty is in the Eye of The Beholder" Added May 04, 1999
I submitted a question to a bulletin board frequented by men who preferred their women large. Their responses and my observations are included.



"Air Travel Sucks" Added May 04, 1999
Guess what this one's about!! Yes, I love to travel, but I hate planes with a passion for the sheer uncomfortableness of it - made worse by my size! If you'd like to listen to my gripes, check this story out.

Visitor submissions!

Please note that I am starting a new format. I am only going to start listing the stories submitted - no more commentaries. Sorry. Hopefully the titles will be descriptive enough.

"A Man's Point of View" Added May 12, 2000
by Simon

"Gaining Confidence" Added January 9, 2000
by Miss CAT

"You Just Start to Believe" Added September 16, 1999
by Melissa Cooley

"Food is GOOD! Curves is GOOD!" Added August 19, 1999
by Elizabeth B.

"The Foot of a Woman" Added August 19, 1999
by Richard Safir

"College Blues" Added August 19, 1999
by D A C

"18, Size That Is, and Proud" Added August 19, 1999
by Jamie Sawyer

"I Shouldn't Be the Only One!" Added August 19, 1999
by Sabra Ellen Morse

"BBW Role Models" Added July 26, 1999
by Anne Sharpe

"Teen Angst" Added July 26, 1999
by Jacquin Pierce

"I Love Myself" Added July 26, 1999
by Sarah Coates



"Being a BBW, Feeling a BBW" Added January 20, 1999
Here's a terrific story from a terrific BBW very active in the fat-acceptance movement. I am honored that Tina has submitted a story here!

Her story chronicles the evolution into feeling like a BBW - it also discusses the various issues regarding how we act to how others percieve us.



"Baggage Check" Added January 20, 1999
Okay, here's something a bit different. Its not a story that EVERYBODY will like, but I did. Its a story about a young man's tortuous struggle through adolescence through to finally adulthood, where he made a committment to change his body (the source of his frustration).

The reason I say that not everyone will like it is because the major emphasis in the fat-acceptance movement, is Acceptance, no matter your size. Unfortunately, Lee could not find that acceptance until he lost the weight.



"Sarah's story" Added January 15, 1999
The first submission since my form-system is up and running!!! Sarah's story comes all the way from the UK and it tells of her journey to learning how to stand up for herself in a society that constantly condemns fat people.

What's great about this story is it shows that people can be cruel the world-over and there seems to be prejudices everywhere. This knowledge should strengthen our determination to "not take it anymore". Please enjoy!



"Viv's Take on Things" Updated January 11, 1999
Another very attractive and positive woman has graciously contributed her perspectives to me! She has a terrific outlook on life and her confidence is infectious.

She is a friend of mine, and all my nagging has finally paid off - she has broken down and given me a picture. Please take another look at her story and her beautiful picture!



"I almost gave up today" Added December 9, 1998
I love this one!! This is a story I am sure almost everyone can relate to - and fortunately MikeyC puts in a very funny light.

It describes the frustration about the size of airline seats - 'nuff said! There's a picture of the author included - handsome fella'. I do have a personal footnote to this story... please see end.



"Vicky's Letter" Added December 9, 1998
This is a very personal account of a young woman's struggle with her weight and environment. And even though it's written as letter, I have been given permission (and a request) to post it.

Its a very touching story, and gives another perspective on how one's struggle with your weight can affect, and by affected by, many different aspects of your life.



"Joe's Story" Added December 9, 1998
Here's a story from someone who I have met via this site. He is a terrific guy and I am really glad that I have (finally!) convinced him to write a story for me.

It describes the struggle to gain confidence in yourself when there are so many outside negative factors influencing you. His picture and e-mail is included (yes, he's single girls!).



"Wallace Lee's Story" Added December 9, 1998
Here's something a little different, but I thought important to include, nonetheless. This is a story written by a very good friend of mine, who subsequently is thin. But as you will see, things haven't always been that way.

This conveys something that all of us have probably dealt with and that is parental pressures relating to food. Please enjoy it and if you would like to send her an e-mail, please forward to me and I will pass it on to her. Thanks!



"Carol's story"Added November 24, 1998
Here's a great story submitted by a very beautiful BBW from her old website. Its filled with humor and an important metaphor.

I hope you enjoy as much as I did! Her picture and e-mail address are included if you'd like to send her your comments. Thanks!

THE SHAPE WOMEN ARE IN

Did you know...

• If shop mannequins were real women, they'd be too thin to menstruate
  
• There are 3 billion women who don't look like supermodels and only eight who do.
  
• Marilyn Monroe wore a size 12.
  
• If Barbie was a real woman, she'd have to walk on all fours due to her proportions.
  
• The average American woman weighs 144 lbs. and wears between a size 12 and 14.
  
• One out of every four college-aged women has an eating disorder.
  
• The models in the magazines are airbrushed -- they're not perfect!!
  
• Models who twenty years ago weighed 8% less than the average woman, today weigh 23% less.
  

Here's the cover a birthday card drawn recently drawn for me by a lovely man I work with, Victor. The caption read:
Happy Birthday to "More Than Just A Pretty Face"
What's really funny about this is that he is/was totally unaware of my website!!